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Dear all,

From now on I am going to try to share my views, thoughts, feelings about World, people, cultures, love, animals, books so on in support of my dear friends Erina and Manu. I wanna thank them for creating such an opportunity for me to be among all of you.

In short I want to introduce myself. My name is Demet live in Turkey, 25 years old, female.

—Let’s start our journey!—

Through our journey one of the saying of L. Buscaglia which I love so much will be our anthem. It is not a national anthem. It is our —universal— anthem.

‘’ Too often We underestiminate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listenning ear, an honest compliment,or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ‘’

My dear friends, we are in 2008 and have already said goodbye to 2007.
Isn’t it the right time to sit on a comfortable chair and review the whole year which is over? About what have we done and what have not we done?

Have we achieved what we wanted?
Have we loved enough and being loved?
Have we given hands to others?
Have we done any speacial things for ourselves and others?
Have we seen any new place we never seen before?
Have we met any new people?
Have we given enough time to ourselves or our family members or our friends so on..?
What have we learnt from this year? Any lose or gain? So on….

Beloved Hellen Keller has a stunning saying about learning in life which I want to share with you.

‘’ Four things to learn in life: To think clearly without hurry or confussion; To love everybody sincerely; To act in everything with the highest motives; to trust God unhesitatingly.‘’

What have we learnt in 2007? A leaf has already fallen from tree.

Hmmm…

Let’s come back to saying which was said by H. Keller. Some words have taken my attentions. Think, love, act, trust, sincerely, motive, unhesitatingly. I loved this words. (Which words have you liked the most?) All those words lead me to the way to —‘’sincere love’’— .

—-Love must be sincere, mustn’t it?—

Let’s listen to Andy Williams. He is singing the song of ‘ Are you sincere?’

Sincerity makes -love- precious and wonderful. Unfortunately from time to time we ask this question mostly to others ‘Are you sincere’? (But We should ask this question ourselves so have to make self-critising to progress ourselves or to have healty relations…so on…) Hundreds of reasons cause asking this question during the life but mostly disapointings, betrayals, lies, violence, ambitions around us, even the news we read in the newspapers, childhood memories, so on…. . How many times do we have broken hearts because of such happenings? Each of us has different attitues towards such happenings, unfortunately even some of us behave as If nothing happens, go on life with broken heart or someof us break the hearts of others… It is a fact that we should not let our heart giving up hope. However every insincere love makes our hope fading…. It is simply realized by just observing around us and the world. War, hatred, jealousy, noise, violence, competition are everywhere.

Dear all, Is not it we give the meaning of love in our life? What I want to say is this: Each personkind makes defination of ‘love’ while living their own life, so giving meanings, meanings, meanings…..We can neither add incereity nor violence nor hatred nor jeolusly into our defination of love. It is not easy, but it is worty to give it a try!

Let’s have a look at Leo Buscaglia’s defination about ‘love’.

‘’Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.’’

Love is a real value which makes our life more happily, colourful, peaceful.
The more we share love, the more love’s warmth brightens our hearts.

It is reported that the things which can not be counted by numbers make us really happy and of course more human. They are such as love, respect, generosity so on…

To put it in a nutshell,

There are three kinds of love, -unselfish, mutual, and selfish. The unselfish love is of the highest kind. The lover only minds the welfare of the beloved and does not car efor his own sufferings. In mutual love the lover not only wants the happiness of his beloved but has an eye towards his own happiness also. It is middling. The selfish love is the lowest. It only looks towards its own happiness, no matter whether the beloved suffers weal or woe. ( by Ramakrishna)

Is not it -the selfish love- which turns this World into a hell?

Let’s build a heaven in our life with avoding selfish love as much as We can.

Please, listen to the song of ‘Reflections of Passion’ by Yanni via youtube while thinking about what kind of love do you have —inside—? I have already started thinking over it while listenning.

Here is the link. Please, give it a try.

To be continued…….

Demet

P.S. Dear all, I am just a learner of English, so English is not my native language. Sorry in advance for the mistekes I did.